If it feels good, do it?

 A trend that seems to be evolving is how people feel that their actions or behavior does not affect others. Therefore they debate that as long as it does not directly affect anyone, they can do what they wish. This trend has become exactly that, "a trend", which signifies "being cool".

The motto is "if it feels good, do it". The debate is "it's my life and if I choose to do it then so be it". They are proud non-conformists, firm rebels and self proclaimed free spirits. Taking pride in being however their hearts desire, living in a way that silently shouts " I am different and if you don't like it then....". Bonding with others like them whose vision is to be as different as possible.

Living and behaving in this way, is this the result of feeling left out for years? After so many years of not fitting in with certain people who can make your life truly miserable ( the in crowd), its human nature to have the desire to rebel. The human brain is more fascinating than we can ever imagine. It can do many things that we are unaware of and may not notice right away. Maybe the human brain helps mold a personality of "rebel" as a defense mechanism?

I was once a non-conformist myself, been there, done that. I can only speak for myself but I felt like most of the world was out to make my life miserable. It seemed that no matter how hard I tried to fit in, I got laughed at, ridiculed or ignored. I will admit that I did try to fit in, deep down inside, everyone wants to be liked. You can deny it all you want, but the truth will always stand... everyone wants to be liked.

You may feel that you do not have to appease anyone. You can hide behind dark bangs, sit in a dark room, keep your eyes peeled on the sidewalk, label yourself "emo" etc but none of that will change your heart. You can display a false front for awhile but one day you will realize the delicate emotions of your heart. It will come crashing to a halt and you will then have to figure out "who you really are" and start anew.

While I am all for free speech, we have to remember that all may be free but all may not be beneficial. You do have a right to free speech, after all this is America.

However at the end of the day, we need to realize that "do what feels good" is one of the contributors to the demise of this world. Now, I am not saying for people to be cookie cutter or Leave it to Beaver robots.

Many don't want to follow the masses. But deep down its not about "following the masses" or being a cookie cutter person...its about morals,values, respect and civility. Its about being civil to others, giving respect and receiving respect. Contributing to society in a way that will reap a positive impact rather than helping to deteriorate foundations.

What we do and how we act does affect society. People may think that their lives are insignificant to the molding of society but the opposite is true.

For example sake:

  • When we raise our children, we do not teach them
         ways or behavior that is immoral. Why?

  • Why don't we teach our children to utilize free speech
          in any way that they desire?
  • If a child does something wrong but can not understand why it was wrong,
        why do we still discipline them?

  • If a child is very rebellious and does not conform to the parent's standards then why is this a bad thing and not celebrated?

Although I have used a child as an example, when you answer the questions in your head, realize that they are also answers to the example if an adult was used. No matter what age someone is, the morals and values still stand. If you feel that they should not
still stand what is your reasoning?

The results of someone's behavior does greatly affect others. The point that I am making is not about having a cookie cutter life or stripping away freedom of speech.

Its about respect for yourself and your fellow human beings......regardless of how you feel about them. Emotions aside, the demise and deterioration of society is a result of lack of morals, values, principles and respect for others.

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  1. Totally agree! I like how you used the word evolving in the first sentence. When people are taught that they evolved from animals, what prevents them from acting like it. If there is no purpose, what is the point? What do I matter? What does it matter how we act? Especially when God is taken out of the picture, people naturally look for attention from man.
    Great post!

  2. Words of wisdom right there Mike!, "Especially when God is taken out of the picture, people naturally look for attention from man."


  3. Good point! This is a great perspective on the "It's true for you, but not for me" mentality of today's world. People seem to apply this "logic" to morality especially - It's all subjective, they say... but what about the person on the other side who is affected by the actions we took? I agree with your analysis entirely: "Emotions aside, the demise and deterioration of society is a result of lack of morals, values, principles and respect for others." And, as Christians, we must argue that these values, principles, and respect can only come from one place: God and His Word. Jesus rightly stated, "Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets." (Matthew 7:12) Excellent post! :D

  4. Miss S.

    Both you and Mike have such wisdom!! Thanks for reading and posting. I appreciate it. Thanks for showing the world that God is the answer.

    Although I don't know either of you very well, but from your blogs and other writings, you both have displayed such wisdom. Most people can live to be 100 years old and will not even have as much heart as the both of you have.

    You both can teach so many people, and are awesome role models. You inspire me!

    God bless

  5. Thanks Rena, I really appreciate that.

  6. Why thank you, Rena! I very much appreciate it.

    Happy New Year!

    God bless,
    Miss S.


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